Sex Column: Give like you receive

Valentine’s Day is all about giving and receiving, right? Romance or not, we all share sentiments, chocolate and, if we’re lucky, a little between-the-sheets action with the people we care about on this mostly made-up holiday. So, for everyone out there who is planning on celebrating with a fancy dinner, dessert and perhaps even some flowers, I say just skip it and head straight to the bedroom. Personally, nothing would make me happier on Valentine’s Day than the gift of an orgasm. Call me carnal, but I really don’t need all the fluff. Just hours on end in bed and some extra-special attention.

With the guy I’ve been seeing recently, Red*, we tend to skip foreplay and move straight to having sex. Which is totally fine, because as soon as I get him naked, that’s all I want. But at the same time, there is something to be said for prolonging that anticipation just a bit longer. I’m still working on a way to say, “Babe, let’s slow down a bit and just touch each other.”

Extended playtime would definitely be worth Red’s while as well, because I consider myself in the minority of girls who really, truly enjoy giving blowjobs. I think there’s something incredibly hot about going down on a guy and hearing him moan with pleasure just from the way you’re moving your mouth. Giving head can often be a lot more intimate than having sex – you can really focus on your partner and what gets him off. And that’s what I think Valentine’s Day is all about. Forget all the stuff that Hallmark throws our way – if you really want to celebrate in style, relish every detail of that special someone’s body and try something new.

So, ladies and gents of GW, please reconsider the art of the blowjob. Seriously, I can’t tell you how many of my guy friends lament how ladies are down for receiving but not giving. There is something inexplicably orgasmic about giving a blowjob. You may not think it’s your forte, but I definitely recommend giving it a try. Your significant other will thank you. Whatever you want to call it, going down on one another is a way underrated aspect of foreplay that I fully plan on bringing back into my sex life this Valentine’s Day.

Names have been changed to protect the naughty.

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