2008 Woodie Awards
As you get older, you begin to acquire new tastes. Beer and red wine become savory when they used to taste sour. Politics becomes interesting when in the past it was a bore. And sexually you become more willing to orally communicate, both verbally and physically.
In college, I thought oral sex was an urban legend. Some girls would talk about mind-blowing orgasms from oral sex. Where were these willing college boys so eager to share their talent to please? For me, it was only a drunken few or steady boyfriend that would actually perform the deed - and it wasn't anything to write home about. In the '90s, women needed to be a cunning linguist - able to talk their way into receiving oral - in order to get some cunnilingus. If oral was going down, it certainly wasn't going down around me.
But in my early twenties I entered a new dimension. Suddenly, men were dropping like flies. I remember having to drop hints to get a guy to drop to his knees. Now guys practically line up and take numbers for the chance. What's happening? When did men become willing performers of oral sex? If sex is like beer and red wine, have men finally acquired a taste for oral sex?
Last week I rallied my troops over many a round to get to the bottom of oral. My friend Mitch told me he was never hesitant to go down, he just never felt welcome. He said the women he hooked up with didn't seem too keen on the idea of him visiting south of their border. And, if he knew he wouldn't have his passport stamped, he wouldn't try to haggle with border patrol. What he didn't realize until recently was that the women weren't displeased by his oral attempts, but with themselves and their bodies.
"When they weren't comfortable with themselves they were trying to please me, now as they get older and more comfortable, I get to please them," Mitch said. "For me, that's what it's all about. If you can't get your partner to feel good, then what's the point?"
I had to dig a bit deeper into the unknown world of man for more answers. So I logged onto the popular male Web site, askmen.com, which gives sex instructions, tips and techniques on oral. Where were these guys during my college years?
In college, I thought oral sex was an urban legend. Some girls would talk about mind-blowing orgasms from oral sex. Where were these willing college boys so eager to share their talent to please? For me, it was only a drunken few or steady boyfriend that would actually perform the deed - and it wasn't anything to write home about. In the '90s, women needed to be a cunning linguist - able to talk their way into receiving oral - in order to get some cunnilingus. If oral was going down, it certainly wasn't going down around me.
But in my early twenties I entered a new dimension. Suddenly, men were dropping like flies. I remember having to drop hints to get a guy to drop to his knees. Now guys practically line up and take numbers for the chance. What's happening? When did men become willing performers of oral sex? If sex is like beer and red wine, have men finally acquired a taste for oral sex?
Last week I rallied my troops over many a round to get to the bottom of oral. My friend Mitch told me he was never hesitant to go down, he just never felt welcome. He said the women he hooked up with didn't seem too keen on the idea of him visiting south of their border. And, if he knew he wouldn't have his passport stamped, he wouldn't try to haggle with border patrol. What he didn't realize until recently was that the women weren't displeased by his oral attempts, but with themselves and their bodies.
"When they weren't comfortable with themselves they were trying to please me, now as they get older and more comfortable, I get to please them," Mitch said. "For me, that's what it's all about. If you can't get your partner to feel good, then what's the point?"
I had to dig a bit deeper into the unknown world of man for more answers. So I logged onto the popular male Web site, askmen.com, which gives sex instructions, tips and techniques on oral. Where were these guys during my college years?
